Until recently, seeing Maly Hout hanging around the streets was
not an uncommon sight. Then, something changed drastically. "I
realized how dangerous and pointless my life was - so I changed
it!"
Maly's brushes with trouble and violence all began at the age of 14.
"Changing to a new high school with no friends was hard, so I just
left! My mother forced me to return to a nearby high school and I was
prepared to do anything to fit back in." Maly's new
group of friends would often get mixed up with other local gangs. "I
never initiated anything, but when something happened, you could bet
that I'd be there for backup." Having friends who got into trouble
with other gangs "made me get used to having eyes on my back" says 17
year-old Maly. "I was always missing school and my friends were
getting mixed up with drugs." During most of this time Maly's parents
and teachers really didn't have a clue what was happening, "they just
thought I was going through a phase. School came so easily, so I
stopped caring about it. I was just going to school to have fun."
Maly's care free attitude towards everything started to drastically
affect her relationship with her family. "We were always fighting
because of how I acted and what I wore. I regret everything now."
After two years of seeing her life go downhill, Maly finally realized
her potential. "I was tired of being afraid. I didn't want to have to
live with eyes on my back anymore." This fear, in combination with
some serious talks with those who cared for Maly, had a positive
effect on her. "My parents and teachers just sat me down and made me
realize what I could be. Plus, I was watching so many of my friends
get hurt for nothing! It was so stupid! When my parents and teachers
started to tell me about the way I used to be , I realized
that I could change and I would have their support. Something started
happening. I guess I was just sick of always being in trouble. I
started drifting away from my friends and kept myself busy by getting
extremely involved with different clubs and councils. Before I knew
it I was responsible for running those very same councils!"
Since she changed, Maly has become the president of her school's
athletic council; she is the vice-president of the students' council,
has co-ordinated a prom and fashion show, will be travelling to
Germany with the International Co-op program and has recently been
accepted into a University of her choice under the Shad Valley
program. On top of all this, Maly is also an honour roll student who
is in the process of developing "specialty" programs that will deal
with such things as promoting technology, literacy and leadership.
Maly also likes to write poems and short motivational sayings like
this one: "You are who you choose to be, and your feelings are
inflicted upon you by no one other than yourself. If you choose to be
successful you will be, and if you choose to be successful you
are."