• Prep/Objectives

• Module 1: Introduction

• Module 2: Gender

• Module 3: What is
  Violence

• Module 4: Evaluation

• Module 5: Research
  and Stats

MODULE 2 - Gender Expectations and Violence
(Duration: 25 minutes)

Objectives

• To begin to explore gender norms and how they may influence violence in young women's lives
• To explore gender expectations within our society
• To begin to link gender expectations to the issues surrounding violence in young women's lives

Instructions:

1. Watch the video on gender
2. Ask participants to stand and form a circle
3. Note: if the group is larger then 20, facilitators should divide into smaller groups
4. Ask participants to share their thoughts on the video by answering the questions below:

   Discussion Questions:

   • What do you think about the video? Why do you think the youth group made this video?
   • How do you think the rules about being a 'girl' or 'boy' influence you? (Follow-Up: Do people like being defined by these rules? Why? Why not? What about people who don't identify as either?)
   • How do the rules about being a 'girl' or 'boy' influence violence in young women's lives?
5. To answer the questions, facilitators will use a hacky sack. Each person will pass the hacky sack to another person in the circle at random. The person holding the hacky sack is the only one who can speak and share their thoughts at that time, emphasizing the first and second pillars of Respect and Listen
6. The hacky sack will be passed around until everyone has shared their thoughts. Participants may decide not to respond which is OKAY. Record people's answers on flip-chart.

Facilitator Tip: Possible responses to the Gender video and ways to facilitate the discussion:

*Please note some of these responses can be applied to other parts of the workshop.

1. 1. Participant says "girls are stronger than guys"
   1. Remind them of the four pillars
   2. Remind them to try to keep their opinions respectful
   3. Why do you think girls are stronger than boys?
2. Participant says "this is stupid"
   1. Remind them of the four pillars
   2. Remind them to try to keep their opinions respectful
   3. What part of what has been said is "stupid"?
3. Someone says someone else's opinion is stupid:
   1. Remind them of the four pillars and everyone is entitled to their own opinion
   2. Ask why they disagree with that statement
4. Someone says "I don't care"
   1. Why don't you care?
   2. Why isn't this important to you?
   3. What would make you care about this?
5. Someone says "that guy is gay"
   1. What makes you think he is gay?
   2. Do you think there are certain colors only guys and girls can wear? Why is that?
   3. Are you saying that negatively? If so, why? Does it matter how they identify?
6. Someone says "that was a stupid video"
   1. Why do you think it's stupid?
   2. "No one really dresses like that. Guys don't dress like that."
   3. Why do you think guys don't dress like that
7. Why isn't she in the kitchen?
   1. Why do you ask that?
   2. Why makes you say women have to stay in the kitchen?